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This I have to really learn…Time Management.

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I have always believed that whatever happens in our lives, it is somewhat being pulled together by a greater force outside this universe, who is greater than all of us. Whether we fail or succeed in everything that we do, we cannot completely blame it on ourselves. There is still at least 1% being attributed to that greater force. So, lucky you if that greater force is on your side, because you become lucky instantly. It’s like, whatever you do, it always becomes a success or it just always turns out right. And sorry if that greater force is not on your side. Even if you keep on trying to do everything you can with a positive attitude, you still end up not succeeding at all.

Do I sound like a pessimist? No. I’m just being realistic.

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I came across this comment on the topic Traditional vs. Progressive Schools at  mom.exchange.ph and boy, it really raised my eyebrows to the top! Click this link to read on.

I could not believe that this happens for real. Kids not behaving properly will be tied to their chairs in school? What kind of school is that?! And is that even called a school?

Schools should be fun not like this. Grrr.

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Have you ever experience that feeling na sobrang ASAR ka sa isang tao na you spend an hour or several hours of your day thinking about them…wishing them nothing but a bad day, bad night, bad hair day…in short, a complete bad life to deal with!

I used to be like this. Whenever I feel annoyed or frustrated or angry I sort of loved the feeling that I kept on thinking about the annoying situation or the annoying person over and over. Weird huh? I guess, women are like that. Since we are more emotional people than men, we tend to internalize, dwell and relish whatever we are feeling- be it good or bad, especially when we get hurt really bad…and the person who has hurt us is the one we love.

It really hurts sometimes but we just can’t let go of the feeling of pain. We try to escape from it but simply couldn’t . In the long run we realize that we have just wasted our time and energy cultivating that ugly feeling inside us. Then all of a sudden we want to change or be a new person, just so we could be normal again.

But when we get frustrated again or hurt, we do the same thing over and over again. It becomes a cycle, which only means we become more and more frustrated and annoyed. So the question now is, how do we stop it?

Here’s how. Believe in the power of the mind. Everything we are and we have and we want, all relies in us- in the power of our mind. Like what my sister would always say, “Learn to master your emotions.” Yes, so if we want to really feel annoyed and frustrated, by all means do not stop that cycle. Otherwise, control your mind, your emotions.

In short, read The Secret (hehe).

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My kids and I went to the clubhouse this afternoon for a quick play at the playground. Our dear friend Trina fetched us together with her baby Phoebe. The kids had fun, especially Coleen and Coy. As for Babu, she fell asleep (again).

There were boys playing basketball at the clubhouse and one of them was Ronnie Magsanoc (btw,he is a homeowner here). I was just humbled to see him play basketball with those ordinary people. He was not playing like a pro, instead he was just like any other guy playing basketball. I even saw him coaching his teammates. It was cool to see him like that. I said to myself,”What a good person he is, no sign of being a star,”

Whenever I see great people like him, acting like a nobody, the more I see them as somebody. We should all be like that. I believe that we are all equal- no matter what age, status, social class we are in, sex, occupation or whatever educational attainment we have reached, we are all the same. We all breathe in the same air, live in the same planet, eat food from common sources, fart undeniably, sweat salty water, snore loudly, sneeze like a cat, excrete smelly poops and may even have bad breath in the morning. We are all the same. So no one should put themselves higher than anybody else. The more you put yourselves above the rest, the more people would look down on you.

So, lets be like Ronnie Magsanoc. Hats off to you, Sir!

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Every time I feel uncomfortable or feel like complaining about the situation I am stuck with, this line would always pop into my mind, “Araw-araw, adjust!” My dear friend Jeng told me about this. Her mother would remind them this whenever a small problem would arise in their family.

Adjust. What a very interesting word. So what does adjust really mean? Adjust is a verb that means “To adapt or conform, as to new conditions” or “to adapt to a new environment”. Our lives are not perfect. We are always faced with trials that make us feel upset, frustrated or challenged. So what do we have to do then? Adjust. We have to adjust our way of thinking, our way of believing, our actions and even our state of mind in order for us to survive and move on to the next level of our journey.

Adjust. We have to learn to adjust in order to live with other people; to learn new techniques; to solve petty problems and even gigantic ones; to open our minds to innovation; to bury the past and look into the future; to heal the pain you are feeling inside you; to love the unlovable; to accept our mistakes and other people’s mistakes; to understand the why of things; to comprehend why you are here and not there; to confirm in yourself that you are mature and not otherwise; to make yourself believe that you can do it and no matter what happens you can and will do it; to stop procrastination; to be yourself; to in other words, to make life easier.

Adjust. We should not take for granted this six-lettered word. If we only absorb, digest and fully understand what this means, life would be a piece of cake. So, adjust!

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I came across this article from Bo Sanchez’s website. I got interested in it because it greatly speaks of myself. I am the type of person who is afraid of confrontations and of making mistakes. I tend to say ‘yes’ even if I really really mean ‘no’. I know that sometimes it gets me into trouble but what could I do? I just can’t stand the thought of facing angry people and most especially people who might get angry at my mistakes.

But good thing I read that blog. It kept me thinking that I should really be more decisive and firm with what I really like, what I believe in and most especially with what I want to do with my life. I guess I should not focus so much on trying to please other people because if I keep on doing this, I might just get so frustrated and end up not being happy at all.

Yes, I should learn to say no. I should. I must.

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It was our 6th year wedding anniversary last May 27, 2008. My husband and I just had a small celebration. We ate at Seven Corners at Crown Plaza. I have been wanting to eat there for the longest time. The food was superb! We had a full stomach and I mean full in every sense of the word. We talked. Laughed about funny experiences that happened that day. I could say, it was a good night.

That night was one of the nights that we had for each other. I mean, we already have three beautiful kids and our time has never been so hectic ever. I was happy that we had time for ourselves, even if it was just over dinner or for just an hour or two.

Our marriage has not been perfect nor a smooth sailing one, just like the rest of the married couples in this planet. Rough times make you smoother. Make you better people. Make you better couples. Better parents as well.

Celebrating anniversaries is a must, I should say. It helps you remember the promises you made for each other. It helps you bring back those good memories and perfect memories you had before marriage and after the wedding night. It helps you rekindle those sweet moments and make the fire growing again. I know we have a long long way to go but for now, we are still learning, enjoying the ride and planning ahead for the future of our kids.

Happy anniversary babe! Love you!

(Sorry for the resolution, this picture was just taken using my cell phone’s camera)

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Everybody wants a perfect marriage. A perfect family. But there is no such thing as perfect family or a perfect marriage. They say that it is the major role of the wives/mothers to keep their marriage/family intact. They say that when a marriage fails or a family becomes broken, it is most likely that the wife/mother has reached the end of her understanding. She has reached the end of her patience. She has reached the end of her persistence in saving her marriage. Her family.

I feel sorry for a friend who has reached the end of understanding her husband’s flaws. I feel sorry that she has reached the end of trying to save her marriage for her kids. I feel sorry that she is having a hard time now trying to justify the greatest decision she has done for her family, and that is leaving her husband. I feel sorry that she had to resort to that very painful decision.

I know that resorting to that very painful decision was the last thing in your mind. I know that you have invested so much in your marriage and in your family. I know that you are in pain seeing your family like this. I know that you are trying your best in justifying the act you have done. And I also know that what you did was right.

Everything you did was for your family, especially for your kids. I know that you are torn between so many things that maybe, just maybe, you want to give up on what you believe is right. I am with you. My prayers are with you. Do not give up the fight. Our children deserve to be with responsible and model parents. You may be crying now but for sure this stage of your life would soon be history. When you look back, you might be smiling because you have surpassed this very great test of your faith.

Hang on. Hold on. You are not alone in this journey. We are with you. God is with you. Look up and smile for you are loved so much.

(I feel sorry and I am sorry too, if I have been vocal about your situation. I respect your privacy but I am just so worried about you and your kids that I needed to ask our other friends to pray for you. Thank you for trusting me. Again, I am sorry again.)

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I do believe in karma. I believe that whenever you do something good to others, it comes back to you more than you expect it. It is not only given back to you but to your family as well. This happens also when your not too good to others. Bad karma comes back to you. I guess that’s the reason why we should be very careful in our words and actions. We have to think first before acting.

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